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Dad Decided Non to Pay For His Daughter's Wedding For This Important Reason & Reddit is Rallying Behind Him

Apr xi, 2022 at half-dozen:39pm PM EDT

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Reddit is unifying in support of one parent and his of import determination. A dad took to the Am I The A**Hole forum to share why he decided non to pay for his daughter's wedding ceremony — and asked if he was in the right or wrong.

"My (39M) daughter (21F) is going to get married this June since she was a niggling daughter I promised to pay for her wedding merely something happened two days ago, that made me alter my mind," he began. "Background. My ex-married woman and I had our daughter at a very immature age, (18) we got married, after six years of marriage I could find myself and come out to my wife, she understood and we had a very amicable divorce and split custody, my daughter was always daddy'south girl and always got forth well with my partner (38M) of 14 years."

Now, his girl is getting married and has some specific, hurtful demands. "Since their future in-laws are so bourgeois and religious, my husband is not immune to nourish the nuptials; I said: OK it'south your day," the Reddit user wrote. "My son (two) tin can't attend either. No, it's not going to be a child-free wedding. I can't talk about my 'lifestyle' because she doesn't make her in-laws uncomfortable."

The dad told his daughter that, if her in-laws are so of import to her, perhaps they should pay for the wedding. "She got mad at me and called me a child and said that if I continue on with this 'attitude' she'll ask her FIL to walk her down the aisle, so I said: 'fine if my family isn't welcomed and I'thousand excluded, I'1000 not paying for the wedding,'" he wrote. "She was furious and said I was existence selfish, picking favourites, and not thinking most her at all."

Then many people, he concluded, accept been upset with him for backing out of the payment. "And so AITA here?" he asked.

The definitive reply was nope, he definitely is not.

"The moment your own daughter told you that your partner was not welcome at her nuptials because of her homophobic in-laws, yous became absolutely NTA," one Reddit user wrote. "You are not required to pay for an upshot – not even your daughter'south wedding ceremony, not even if once-upon-a-time you promised her y'all would – at which your life partner, the man you dearest, the father of your other child, and a man WHO HAS NEVER DONE Anything TO Hurt OR BETRAY YOUR Daughter IN ANY Way (most importantly) is not welcome to stand past your side as a welcome member of your family. Period."

Another person added: "She tin can't disrespect and try to hide your marriage while too expecting you to pay for hers."

And and so there was this very excellent indicate:

"OP'due south daughter is seeking to prioritize her future in-law'due south homophobia over OP. Every bit a general dominion, if someone is OK with some other person'southward bigotry, they are supporting bigotry. They are communicating they are OK with it," a user wrote. "Nosotros shouldn't vanquish around the bush-league: OP'southward daughter is being homophobic. OP has absolutely zilch obligation to support someone else being homophobic to him."

What practise you think? Should he nevertheless pay for the wedding ceremony?

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